Stay Active
Consistently
You cannot give up too quickly and you must give God “His” time, not
your time. There is no telling when you will meet that right person. In
fact, you have very little control. Your job is to keep active and keep
doing the work of searching, sending messages, and yes, “waiting.” I
have seen people have success in one week after joining, and I have
seen members finally have success after four years, and everything in
between. But the successful ones are the consistently active ones. And
that is because they believe that you never know when that right person
will be joining or come into your radar screen. Stay active!
Don’t Take Things
Personally
Online Dating and Personals are, by nature, going to have people
"hunting"; therefore, it is easy for members to move past another
member without replying to messages. Everyone on this service is
seeking to meet a friend, companion, lover, abuser or even their future
spouse. There are thousands of people to sift through. The members have
very little time to invest in answering all messages or doing too many
searches. They want to use their time as productively as possible.
Though there are instances of actual rudeness, they are not trying to
be rude or "uncharitable." It only seems that way at times. Online
Dating services are working very hard to give members as much help as
they can to make it easy for them to give a response to all messages
they receive. But it is inevitable that there will be messages that do
not get responded to. It is also inevitable that you will be in contact
with more of the "wrong" person than that one "right" person you seek.
But that's just it, you are seeking one person. And that person will
respond to your messages. And that person will be what makes all the
crosses of using this service (and life itself) worth it. Don't waste
any energy taking these experiences personally or to heart. You have a
mission and it requires heroic efforts and all your energy. Focus on
seeking that one person of your prayers. Just move on without stopping
to figure out why another member doesn't respond to you. It is for the
best anyway. You need to be positive, focused, and full of joy.
Post a Photo
A clear, current, and close-up photo posted on your profile highly
increases your chances for success on this service. You might disagree
or even think this is pretty sad that members want to see your photo,
but having the photo gives members a sense of who they are
communicating with. No one wants their computer monitor to be the only
thing they see. Most members don’t even look at members with no photo.
Posting a bad photo is better then no photo, but it can have pretty
close to the same result as no photo. Blurry, dark photos are
unproductive. So are ones with you in the distance, with other people,
and with sunglasses on. Photos of you from years ago are deceitful.
Seeing a good photo of you is the key to a person feeling “comfortable”
enough to dare open their heart to you. Relationships are no
different. And since all members are at a disadvantage in that they
cannot communicate face to face with the people they write to on the
site, the photo helps give that unique presence of the other person,
which makes all the difference toward finding the right person. With
this in mind, try to check out and rate some online photos posted by
members One
and Only.com or at LikeMyPhoto.com
now!
Only
Write to Members Who You Think Have Potential
Don’t just write to lots of members at one time and hope someone
responds. This does not help discern the right person. Write to several
members you think you share much in common with or have attraction to
and whom you feel might be a real possibility.
Guys AND
Ladies … Take the Initiative and Write First
Ladies, write to the guys. Don’t wait for them. I know you would prefer
that that man find you and write first. That may be the way it “should”
be, however, guys very much need help being found and gaining
confidence to write. With thousands of members to search, they could
easily miss you. So make yourself “findable” by writing first. I can’t
tell you how many of our success stories are of ladies who wrote first.
It’s not like you are asking the guy to marry you. Everyone on the
service knows they are seeking their future companion or spouse,
but we should all know as well that a good union begins first with good
friendship. Starting a conversation as a friend is not the same as
asking someone out on a date. So write to the guys you think you would
like to get to know. And in the name of God, Buddha or Allah, guys …
write to these ladies!!! And do it with a mind to move toward
commitment if things take their due course. Most female members are
ready for friendship and interaction and they are tired of dealing with
the guys who are not serious ready for a something like this. So I
guess I should say “don’t” write to these ladies if you are not really
seeking. But if you are, go out and win that right one for you. These
ladies want a good man or companion in their life “for” life.
Be Open to Any
Geographic Area
I know you would all love to meet the person you have been praying for
all your life in your town or area. But it is unlikely. The person you
seek is rare, and they are getting harder to find. The chances of
finding this person locally or in your everyday environments are slim.
In fact, the very reason you are on our service in the first place is
because this is a fact. Yes, long-distance relationships are a lot of
work, but they can be successful. Please read our success stories page
to see many examples of this. It was always my belief that if strong,
committed, practicing single Catholics are going to meet the person of
their prayers, they are going to have to be very heroic in their
actions to find that person. You have to be open-minded and
open-hearted to God to allow Him to bring into your life this right
person wherever he or she may be. Once you limit yourself to geography,
your chances of success go down. I am not saying you should not try to
seek someone in your area. It does happen, and has on this service. But
for most members, this right person will be in another state (and maybe
even another country). If you are not “settling” for someone who is not
Catholic or is not as strong a Catholic as you are, then I believe you
must be open to heroically doing what it takes to meet, befriend,
court, and marry that right person. You may spend money on phone bills,
air travel, and gas. You may spend a great deal of time in travel. You
might even find you need to make major life adjustments like moving to
another state or finding another job. All of these things sound to you
right now (and this is key) like you would not be open to that. It is
easy to say that when that special person is not in your life and
non-existent. However, when you DO meet the person who fits your heart
and your soul like a glove, believe me when I tell you that you will do
anything you have to in order to be with that person for life. So be
open-minded!!
Practice
Common Sense
Don't give out personal information such as your name, telephone
number, and address until you feel comfortable. Find a personals
service that has an internal
messaging system for the reason of keeping yourself anonymous and
maintaining your privacy. The other members will never learn your
e-mail address unless you choose to reveal it. When you do decide you
want to give out your phone number, start with a work or cell number.
Don't give out your home phone right away, if you are able. If you
decide to meet, make it a public place during the day. Make sure you
tell friends where you will be and who you are meeting. When you do
meet the person, don't share too much information about yourself too
soon.
Be
Honest
It's only fair to be honest when writing about yourself on your profile
and in your correspondences. In the long run, it won't help you if you
are dishonest. This applies to photos, too. Post a recent photo that
represents you best. You want someone to know who you really are now,
not who you were ten years ago.
Take Your Time
Get to know someone through his or her words before taking the next
step of meeting each other in person. The beauty of the Internet is
that it has rekindled the joy of writing and receiving letters. Writing
has a way to expressing one’s heart a lot more than conversation over a
dinner date. Explore this way of connecting with the other person
before you talk on the telephone or meet face-to-face.
Pay Attention and Ask
Questions
Though online dating is already quite safe and acceptable, nowadays it
is still possible to meet someone who
does not represent themselves honestly. Be concerned of anyone who asks
for your personal information or offers their personal information
during initial correspondence. This is not proper. Also, make sure you
ask good questions along the way so
you can know more about a person's background. This may be hard to
achieve during the writing and phone conversation stages. I always tell
members to make sure that when you do finally start meeting in person
you interact with each other's friends and family. No one can keep
their "mask" on around those familiar with the person.
Make Sure You Are
Preparing Yourself
Everyone who joins Online Dating & Personal Sites wants to meet the
person they want to have a friendship, a romantic relationship or
the one they are going to marry. But are you prepared to meet this
person, or are you “worthy” at this time? You need to make sure you are
always working on yourself as you search for that right person. Are you
too picky? Are you too unreasonable in what you want in a person? Are
you really seeking to meet the right person, or are you just hanging
out, looking for new friends? Do you want to give yourself in
friendship or marriage, or is it just a one-way street with you at the
receiving end? The quality of yourself and your approach to meeting
your future friend, companion or spouse will be in direct proportion to
your chances of success meeting that person online. Don’t underestimate
the potential for missed opportunities with a wonderful person because
of something about yourself that was an impediment to achieving your
goals.
Write, Don’t Just “Chat “
Writing to another member is like sending out a business proposal in
hopes of winning the contract. You put your best foot forward and take
the time to represent yourself as someone that is unique and should be
considered by this person. You especially want to make sure you are
writing about things you discovered on the other person’s profile. This
is how you develop a good relationship. No one gets too excited about a
message from someone with a short, choppy comment about nothing at all.
Be creative, be attentive, be interesting, but definitely be yourself.
Have Fun!
Just as developing a relationship in person can make you tremble with
excitement, you can find the same thrill with corresponding with
someone new on the Internet. Move slowly and savor the journey before
you jump into romance. It is also the safest way to proceed.
Sometimes the
perfect person for you is that whom you
least expected to be.
Can’t find a reason
why God gave you to me. But that’s not a question to be asked. May be
question is how did God knew that I needed someone like you"...
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